Why Do Men Hate Valentine’s Day? – Men hate Valentine’s Day because it feels contrived and because it feels like it calls for some arbitrary display of love by which he will be judged.
So why do women love Valentine’s Day?
Because, even if it is contrived, it represents another opportunity to check out and show others how he feels about her.
John told me how he blew it last year, with his long- distance girlfriend. She was due to come into town on February 15th, so he thought it would make no sense to send flowers to her office on Valentine’s Day.
Silly John. He won’t make that mistake again.
Love and its pursuit create more ecstasy and agony than anything I can think about for both men and women.
Since it’s almost Valentine’s Day, I decided to conduct a random survey at a famous “OC” mall. What does “love” mean to you? I asked some passersby. (Given the economy, there weren’t many people around and I suppose talking to me was better than spending money.)
“’Love’ gives me the shivers,” said a twenty-something girl, holding her boyfriend’s hand.
“’Love’ is belonging.” said an older gentleman standing alone while his wife was window shopping nearby. (When I caught him later, checking out some pretty young girls, he winked and whispered that he’d never be too old to “look.”)
“’Love’ means respect,” said the female half of an attractive yuppie-looking twosome.
“And it means ‘sex’,” added her husband. (His wife looked annoyed with his comment.)
“’Love’ means feeling ‘free’.”
“’Love’ means lack of freedom.”
“’Love?’ No more worry about STD’s,” said a man wheeling a stroller.
“’Love’ is scary,” said a kid with a nose ring.
“I don’t want nothin’ to do with ‘love.’ No ma’am, I want to do what I want to do, when I want to do it,” said his friend.
“’Love’ is what I feel for my girlfriend… please don’t tell my wife.”
“’Love’ is what I feel for my wife… I mean I smile from the inside when I look at her… please don’t tell my girlfriend… only kidding!”
Gentlemen, Try This: Even if you hate the “have-to’s associated with a random holiday like Valentine’s Day, get over it. If you love your woman, have enough empathy to make her smile.
If you really love her, do something special enough to give her bragging rights. You’ll get paid back. I promise.
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