June 8, 2017"Listen to Understand"

  In feudal Japan, a “NINJA” was a covert agent, a mercenary. . With the aid of disguises and specific learned techniques, he gathered information about enemies Espionage was his mission. Ninjas had to learn to be great listeners. Their training prepared them to know when to keep their mouth shut and their minds open.   This […]

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too much texting

Etiquette For Over-Aged “Texters”

April 5, 2015Blog

April 5, 2015 “Carol,” 53, didn’t know whether to laugh or cry when she talked about how texting had almost led her to “romantic” folly. Newly single, “Carol” hadn’t been on a date for twenty-five years. . Then, walking her dog on Balboa Island, she met “Hal,” who invited her to coffee. She thought he […]

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July 3, 2013Blog

July 3, 2013 I’ve always loved fireworks on July 4th; so don’t call me a spoilsport as you read this. “Fireworks,” just takes on different meaning in the world of family counselors and psychologists. If you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, you know what I mean. Could you do a better […]

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talking too much

Telling Too Much in the Name of Intimacy

August 29, 2009Blog

August 29, 2009 Telling Too Much in the Name of Intimacy – Holly and Todd met three months ago on an airplane, somewhere between Los Angeles and Boston. Kismet ruled and they were seated next to each other for the five-hour trip. Todd, a marketing executive on a business trip and Holly, en route to […]

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Botox – Blatant Lifting of Good Lines

June 1, 2008Blog

When I wrote last week that “blogging” for me was like botox for the mind, my funny friend Nancy asked, “Does that mean that blogging makes your mind go all numb and expressionless?” No, Nancy. Actually it’s the opposite. Doing something new takes away wrinkles of the mind. Nancy also said the definition of “blog” […]

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