(Take note:  This  bad, bad  “D” word  has nothing to do with the “Donald.”)


There are certain things you should NEVER SAY to your spouse who you claim to love most of the time, even when you are over-the-top angry.

 NEVER SAY:  “Whatever” … with that, you know the one… dismissive look on your face.

 NEVER SAY: “You’re just like your mother or father”  (when you don’t mean it as a compliment.)

 NEVER SAY:  “You’re being ridiculous” … while your spouse is trying to communicate a strong emotion (even if he/she is being ridiculous.).

  And … in the middle of an argument… NEVER, EVER, EVER SAY…  I WANT A DIVORCE”.

 You can always get a divorce; not to worry.


 Monumental, life-changing decisions, should not be made, or even suggested, in the throw of any kind of passionate outburst, however.

If, what you’re after is a better shot at happiness (abusive relationships and those impacted by drugs/ and/or alcohol, aside) think about banishing the  bad “DIVORCE” word from your marital vocabulary.

Because casually ping-ponging the  “D word” can ultimately pull apart even the best of relationships.

Sure, it’s tempting, sometimes. You want his attention. You want her to know you are really serious about whatever. You are angry, for real, and sometimes your ultimatum may seem to work.

But like the fairy tale boy who cried “wolf,” threats lose their power over time and can set the stage for unforeseeable and irreconcilable problems.


Never mind how long you’ve been married, never, EVER  speak about  DIVORCE unless that is exactly what you intend to do.


(Psychologists are famous for telling their clients to give up words like “NEVER” and  “ALWAYS”. I do that too. But NEVER let it be said that there isn’t ALWAYS an exception to a rule!)

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