While TRUE LOVE can get your creative juices flowing, you still have to make sure you aren’t just suffering from a “POST-PANDEMIC LOVE ATTACK.”


“So, Doc,” ‘Brad’, my client asked, “How do I know if this is for real… We met three weeks ago and it sure feels real. It’s magical. But, how can I be sure?

“I keep thinking how it’s been a long dry, lonely year. Maybe I’m being a vulnerable fool… that’s what my friends say.”

He hesitates before continuing…  “Do you think I’m being stupid?”

And then, as if to apologize, he said, “I haven’t said ‘I LOVE YOU’ yet.”

Brad looked like a man who could be falling in love.

You’ll agree, I’m sure, that three weeks is way too soon to know.  I did offer up a list of tips many of my colleagues use to help others see if their relationships are showing “TRUE-LOVE” POTENTIAL:

  • Happiness– Seeing your special person smile or laugh fills you with happiness. Even if you are having a bad day, their love always lifts your mood and makes you feel better.
  • Companionship and reciprocity– You miss them when they are gone and give to the relationship unconditionally.
  • Effort– You go out of your way to make efforts for them and improve the relationship.
  • Sacrifice– You share their burdens and are always willing to help them with difficulties they are facing.
  • Selflessness– You think of them over yourself in all aspects of life.
  • Attraction– Whatever you do you can’t keep your eyes off of them.

Maybe it is LOVE this time… or maybe it isn’t. Maybe your friends are right and its just that you’ve been isolated for too long. Or maybe, she is the one and you want to hold on tight. RX:” TINCTURE OF TIME” is still the best test as to whether she’s with you for a reason, a season or for a life-time.

Now about that “L” word.

For as long as you are  hesitant  to commit with an “I LOVE YOU”, there are other words which may serve you well in the interim.If you aren’t quite ready to say “I love you,” here are some “SORT-OF-LOVE” words for your consideration:


  1. “I hope you know how much you mean to me”
  2. “I’m so glad you’re in my life!”
  3. “You are so amazing!”
  4. “You mean so much to me”
  5. “Smiling so much today just thinking of you”
  6. “Just wanted to thank you for being you”

Every relationship was once three months old. Let yours simmer for a while and when the time is right, if it is, you will know.

Trust me, I’m the LOVE DOCTOR.


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