NO RESOLUTIONS THIS YEAR???

January 16, 2021"PLAN" : NOT A BAD WORD

    I have a friend who signed up for a zoom music appreciation class. What a great idea, I thought, especially through these difficult times.   Music, he explained, is something he knows little about. The first session included examples of Gregorian chants, with religious roots. My friend is a spiritual man. No surprise […]

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LOVE AND HO’OPONOPONO

May 31, 2020ANOTHER LOVE CHALLENGE

If you want: To reduce the stress in your life… To improve your relationships with others… To live a happier and more positive life… If you want more control over your emotions, some say to “move to Hawaii”. GUESS WHAT?  Hawaii can come to you. The Hawaiian practice of HO’OPONOPONO is portable. I understand it […]

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MARITAL PROBLEMS? CONSIDER A “THREESOME”

August 2, 2019angry spouse

            What do veteran couples… those married more than twenty years or so … fight about? You probably can guess… even if you have been in a relationship for a much shorter time. I don’t have to guess. My job is to help people love each other better. The first […]

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“SHOULD “MELISSA” CHANGE … JUST TO KEEP ‘BRAD HAPPY?”

March 11, 2019A KINDER AND GENTLER "WALL"

      Yes… within reason. Change is inevitable, desirable for you, for “Brad” and for your marriage. It’s all a matter of degree, I told “Melissa.” It does need to go both ways; your husband has to be willing to bend some, too. Changing small things about yourself to please your partner is part […]

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LOVE … AT ANY AGE

January 14, 2019ANOTHER LOVE CHALLENGE

    It’s a shiny New Year. Love is in the air.  Like the sunshine, as my mom always said, there’s enough love to go around for everyone. Doesn’t even matter how old you are. I heard a charming make-me-smile story about a romantic, creative eleven year old, too old really, to believe in Santa, […]

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DID YOU RETURN HIS LINGERIE GIFT?

December 28, 2018"cracked" communication

              The final ritual of any year-end celebration includes taking down the tree, putting away decorations and returning those gifts, which aren’t quite right. The one gift most likely to returned after the holidays is LADY’S  LINGERIE.  (And yes, I’ve written about this before.) It seems that men like to […]

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THE RIGHT LOVE -GIFT

November 30, 2018"cracked" communication

                Suppose this Christmas/Hanukah season, a “miracle” occurred and when you awoke tomorrow, you were suddenly aware that life had gotten better… and not just for you. You feel like you’ve received the perfect gift: These are some of the things I would hope would be part of […]

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THE “QUESTION” OF INTIMACY… WITH FRIENDS AND LOVERS

May 19, 2018"Questions" for intimacy

 If you are craving more intimacy with the people in your life… and you are failing miserably…  one problem may be that you are asking the wrong questions and/or asking them at the wrong time.       .  GENERIC QUESTIONS, like  “How are you?”  or     “How ARE you?” or “How are YOU?” are […]

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DID YOU MARRY THE WRONG PERSON?

February 9, 2018Alain Botton

         “Tall, dark and handsome?  Nice but not necessary. I’m fifty and single for the first time in twenty five years.” What is it you are looking for, I asked “Jennifer,” who owned up to searching for a new and perfect mate.  “He’s going to hate football, love the beach, detest camping, […]

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“PAPER” VS “PLASTIC” MARRIAGES

November 4, 2017"plastic" vs. "paper" relationships

I overheard a couple arguing at the check out stand in the market.   He said “paper”. She insisted on “plastic.”             The checker was courteous as she waited for the verdict. His voice was louder; the “winner” was paper and she stormed away. The man behind them in line tried […]

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ARE FIBS EVER JUSTIFIABLE?

September 16, 2017"fractured families

  You may hate me for this but there are other times when a lie… a little fib… may actually be justified and a good idea. Think of it as a survival skill. I’ll bet somebody once had you believe in the Tooth Fairy or Santa Claus. Now you know they were lying. Stick with […]

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I SPIED ANOTHER “LOVE-CHALLENGE”

June 24, 2017ANOTHER LOVE CHALLENGE

Following is a true “love-challenge” story,” I tuned into a screenplay, and almost sold several times. Finally, I learned how often it goes that way in show business.   Then, last week, in a fancy eat-in super market, I witnessed a incident very much like the inspiration for my LOVE-CHALLENGE AT THE CAR WASH story. […]

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